No.1 Unconditional Supports
Your soulmate is your biggest fan. They’ll stand on the sidelines, cheering you on every step of the way, because they want to see you succeed, they want you to accomplish your goals and achieve your dreams, because you’re happiness matters to your soulmate. Personal happiness is a common source of conflict in relationships. Partners care about their own happiness and the happiness of the relationship. But does your partner care about your personal happiness? Do they want you to succeed and achieve even if that means sacrificing your own wants and needs? All right, let’s say for example, that you get an amazing opportunity for your career, to pursue this opportunity, you have to travel overseas. Now, a selfish partner may stop you from going, they don’t want you to leave them alone for so long, or maybe they’re worried that your relationship will fall apart. Now, a soulmate would never stand in the way of your personal dreams, because they know that your dreams will make you happy, and that makes them happy. So, even if they’ll be lonely without you, even if they’re worried about what might happen in the future, a soulmate gives you their unconditional support, because your happiness is there number one priority.
soulmate n.灵魂伴侣
sidelines n.（球场）边线；端线；兼职
cheering n.欢呼；喝彩 adj.令人高兴的 v.欢呼（cheer 的 ing 形式）
matters to 对。。。很重要
sacrificing v.牺牲，献出；献祭，以……为祭品
pursue v.追求
fall apart 破碎，崩溃; 破裂，解体
stand in the way of 阻碍，妨碍
No.2 Vulnerable Trust
A soulmate feels like home. Spending time with your soulmate eases your nerves, holding their hand cut your anxiety in half, just talking to your soulmate put you in a more positive state of mind. In other words, your soulmate helps you relax and escape from the rest of the world. Why do soulmates make us feel comfortable and safe? Well, the answer revolves around one word, and that’s “trust”. Your soulmate is someone you can trust with all of your heart. You trust them with your secrets, you trust them with your weaknesses, you’re not afraid to show them every aspect of your personality. In the same way, your soulmate isn’t afraid to show you their weaknesses either. Because you both genuinely trust each other. Without this strong bond, you’d never really be comfortable around your partner. You’d stay on your guard every time your partners in the room. According to relationship psychologists, distrusting relationship significantly increases your stress levels. But why is that? Well, because you can’t be yourself. Alright, let’s say you get home from work and you just want to relax, but you’re afraid to let your partner see you in sweatpants or without your makeup. If you don’t trust your partner enough to bring down your walls, well, they may not be your soulmate. But if you can be yourself around your partner, if their presence feels like a safe haven, well, then you may have found your perfect match.
ease v.减轻，缓和；放松；使安心
nerve n.[解剖]神经；神经紧张；胆量（nerve 的复数）
anxiety n.焦虑，忧虑
stay on your guard 保持警惕
sweatpants n.（美）宽松长运动裤
makeup n.化妆
haven n.安全地，避难所；港口，港湾
match n.伴侣，配偶
No.3 Core Similarities
The you and your partner share the same value? Soulmates can be very different people. You may be shy and risk averse while your partner’s outgoing and impulsive; you may love reading for hours on the couch while your partner likes to be athletic and social; your personalities may differ and obvious ways, but the core of who you are may be exactly the same. Well, interests, passions and preferences are important. Our beliefs and values decide what kind of people we really are. Do you value kindness above all else? Does your life revolve around your family? are you constantly in pursuit of greater goals? Or, do you simply want to make yourself happy in the present? Your answers will lead you down different paths in life, they fuel your most important decisions and a motivate your greatest sacrifices. So, the you and your partner share the same values? Are you both work-oriented? Do you both value family? Which is more important to each of you? Loyalty, or self-respect? Adventure, or stability? You and your soulmate share the same core values even if you seem like different people. Your lives will be headed in the same direction. You can understand how and why the other person makes their decisions, because you understand each other’s points of you, and you share a similar perspective on life. So, don’t worry if you and your partner have opposite traits, don’t worry if they like things that you don’t. The truth is, if you have like-minded values, your differing personalities make complement each other perfectly.
risk averse 风险厌恶
impulsive 冲动的
athletic adj.运动的，体育的
stability 稳定性
traits 特质
like-minded 志同道合的
complement v.补充，补足
perfectly adv.完美地
No.4 Love At Your Worst
Has your partner seen you at your worst? I mean hitting rock bottom, scares people off sometimes. When the going gets rough, you can tell the difference between a regular partner and a soulmate. Imagine you just lost your job. After years of motivation and success, you begin to struggle, your passion fades. If fall back into old habits, in the quality of your life crumbles. Would your partner stick by you or leave you to survive on your own? If your partner loves you at your best but leaves you at your worst, well, you’ve not found your soulmates, because your soulmate will love you no matter what state your life is in. Whether you’re struggling or succeeding, this person is by your side every step of the way. They’re always rooting for you, they’re always proud of you, and they’re always excited to see what you’re going to do next. So, don’t settle for someone who only loves you at your best. Instead, recognize the people who stick through thick and thin. If you find someone who loves you at your best and your worst, you may have found your soulmate.
hitting rock bottom 达到最低点，处于极度困境或失败的状态
scares people off 把人吓跑
crumbles v.弄碎
stick by 继续支持或忠于某人或某事物
rooting for 为……加油打气
settle for 将就，勉强接受
stick through thick and thin 同甘共苦
No.5 Finding Your Teacher
A soulmate is not just a friend or a partner. A soulmate enters your life to teach you something. A soulmate challenges you, pushes you, and helps you improve. They encourage you to chase your passions and motivate you to abandon your vices. Throughout your life, your soulmate will be one of your greatest teachers, and also your favorite student, because your soulmate isn’t there just to teach you, you have just as many lessons to teach them. Just think about your current partner or any of your past relationships, did your partner challenge you? Did they push you? Do they motivate you? Have you ever known someone who breaks down your walls, recognizes your insecurities and works with you to improve? Now, on the other side of the spectrum, have you ever done this for your partner? If the answer is no, then you’ve likely never met your soulmates. But hey, that’s okay, you shouldn’t live your life pretending that you’re with the right person. It’s better to break up than force yourself into an unhappy relationship. But remember this, when you do come across someone who challenges you, don’t run away from them. So many soulmate relationships dissolve early on because one partner refuses to acknowledge their mistakes, or they get scared of change. It can be extremely difficult to learn and to grow. But if you found your soulmate, then you found someone who will push you to new heights, and learn right alongside you.
vices n.恶习；罪恶（vice 的复数形式）
throughout adv.遍及，到处；自始至终，贯穿整个时期
spectrum n.范围
pretending 假装
break up 分手；解散
come across 偶然遇见
dissolve v.解散，解除
refuses 拒绝
acknowledge 承认
alongside prep.在……旁边
No.6 Reciprocal Strength
Do you feel more confident around your partner? Does your partner give you the courage to confront new challenges? Soulmates are a source of strength in your life. A soulmate will always be a rock you can count on. In good times and bad times, your soulmate will be there to support you, because they’re fully invested in their relationship. A soulmate doesn’t view your partnership as something temporary, they don’t play down their commitment to you, because hey, they’re all in. That means, they’ll be there when you need them. When life beats you down, they’ll pick you back up, and you’ll do the same for them, because soulmates offer strength to each other, they’d rush to your side as quickly as you’d rush to theirs. Now of course, soulmates don’t just catch you when you fall, they also empower you to try new things. So, when you try to improve yourself, soulmates give you confidence and encourage. Even if things don’t work the first time, your soulmate will stand by you again and again. If you found someone who gives you strength, you may have found your soulmate.
reciprocal adj.相互的，互惠的
temporary 暂时的，临时的；短期的，短暂的 n.临时雇员，临时工
play down 淡化; 贬低
catch 抓住
stand by 忠诚，支持
No.7 The Magic Of Hard Work
The final sign that you found your soulmate is hard work. The perfect relationship will not fall magically into your life. If you think you’re the one lucky person who stumbles upon the soulmate, think again. Because great long lasting relationships take an incredible amount of time and effort. Many people when they hear the word soulmate, imagine love at first sight. We’ve all seen stereotypical soulmates in movies, right? We’ve all read about perfect relationships on books. If you believe the media, you may be waiting for your ideal partner to appear before you. As soon as you and your soulmate meet, you may imagine living happily ever after. But the magic of finding your soulmate isn’t magic at all, it’s the product of years of commitments, loyalty, and hard work. A soulmate isn’t flawless or even ideal. In fact, your soulmate could look at nothing like you expect. Yet, you’re drawn to this person, you feel it in your brain, you feel it in your heart, and you feel it in your gut. They may have flaws, but so do you. Your relationship may take years of work, but every good relationship does. So, don’t expect the magic of the universe to tell you when you found your soulmates. Instead, pay attention to the way your partner makes you feel, examine the role your partner plays in your life, and really envision your future. If you can’t imagine life without your partner, well, you may have found someone who’s worth the hard work.
stumble upon 偶然发现
an incredible amount of 数量惊人的
love at first sight 一见钟情
stereotypical adj.刻板印象的，类型化的
ever after 永远幸福地生活
flawless adj.完美的，无瑕的
drawn v.画，绘制；拖，拉；拔出；排出（液体）（draw 的过去分词）
be drawn to 被吸引
gut n.肠，肠道；内脏；<非正式>勇气，魄力；（尤指大的）胃，肚子；直觉，本能；核心，实质；肠线；<非正式>（机器或设备的）内部零件；狭道，狭海峡
flaws n.[材]缺陷
examine 审视
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